209 Energy Vampires

“Energy Vampires” are people who suck the life force outta you!

In this episode, Siena - who is a Highly Sensitive empath type of   person - shares what she’s found helpful in dealing with Energy Vampires.

But first we chat about growing garlic in our home vegetable garden.

TIP: Actual vampires cannot enter your home unless you invite them in. Supposedly.

How do you know if someone is an energy vampire?

  • You pretty consistently feel drained and exhausted and depleted by them.

  • You pretty consistently dread spending time with them.

  • You pretty consistently feel invisible or less-than when you’re with them, because they consume so much of the space that they’re in.

NOTE: Not every interaction that you feel drained by is an Energy Vampire encounter; it could just be a negative energy experience. After all, each of us needs to lean on others sometimes and that can make those others feel drained sometimes.

Thoughts on how to deal with Energy Vampires

  • If you have your energy shields in place when dealing with an EV, it’ll probably drain you less.

  • Have a mindfulness practice

  • And a somatic/body awareness practice like yoga or Qi Gong

  • Because awareness of how you feel will give you a heads-up about your energy stores

  • Also heads-up that if you’re aware of a constricted body awareness, that’s a protective reaction you’re having.

  • Boundaries: meet for coffee instead of lunch, or just text instead of coffee; have an idea of what works better for you; limit contact

  • Be a stone wall: be a boundary, inhabit the energy of a stone wall and this will express itself in your tone of voice, which can tend to discourage EVs from returning to suck your life force again and again.

  • Or, be a disco mirror ball, reflecting what’s being projected towards you right back at them (more in an energetic way, less in a behavioral way).

Siena & Toast