What would you do if a neighbor dumped trash in your recycling bin?

Here’s what we did.

A discussion about assertiveness when you’re female, Asian American, lesbian, and were born and raised in Hawaii. …can you be assertive and still be likable?

Notes from a presentation by Vanessa Van Edwards (@vvanedwards on Instagram):

Assertiveness is a learnable social skill.
An assertive person knows what they want and they know how to ask for it clearly.
Assertive people actively pursue their strengths and avoid their weaknesses.
Work can be classified as A, B, C, or D, type of work, with “A” being tasks you enjoy and are naturally better-than-average at, and “D” work being tasks you hate and that you are worse-than-average at.
Assertive people are likable when they are aggressively kind when they help others spend more time doing their ‘A’ work.
Assertive verbal cues. If you’re asked to do something, instead of feeling pressured to give a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ on the spot, you can respond with “Let me think about that, I’ll get back you later, let’s schedule a time to talk about it.” etc. If you’re going to turn down an invitation, instead of saying “I can’t” you can say “I don’t.” or “I don’t feel like it” or “I have other plans.”
Assertive non-verbal cues. You can have good posture, face people directly, and speak clearly.

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