38 What We're Doing Differently For Our Relationship This Year
New Yearâs Momentum: the Good & the Bad
At the start of a New Year, momentum is on your side!
But we've found that - yikes - it can encourage creating a list of goals that is justâŠ
Too.
Much.
I mean, itâs great to have goals!
But when the list grows beyond optimal, it can foster more overwhelm and ineffectiveness than it does focus and fulfillment.
And even if, by the end of the year, youâve made progress on New Yearâs goals, youâll inevitably have fallen short on many of them, too.
Because of course.
Itâs only natural, if youâve taken on too much at the start.
So.
Maybe do a ruthless pruning and trimming of your Goals List, so you can make really meaningful strides on what does make the cut.
Our Word/Theme for the Year
Sienaâs word/theme this year is: Reverence
Toastâs word/theme this year is: Self-Care
âŠand we go into more of our thoughts, and what we mean by these words, in this episode.
#RelationshipGoals
And, we also share the simple year-long 'instructions' we've given to ourselves, to support our relationship.
(Can't believe we've never done this before in our 18 years of being together!)
Hereâs what we did/will do:
what we did:
We put our âbossâ hats on, and scheduled our âdate nightsâ for the entire year.
That is, wrote âem in our calendars and planners.
Our next two scheduled dates are:
a nature hike
a movie night
What we will do:
Weâre looking forward to âfollowing our own instructions,â to honor time for ourselves (see Word/Theme for the year: reverence, self-care).
And yeah, we realize that life happens, so weâre also prepared to postpone or reschedule dates of course.
Whatâll be interesting is how this new, consistent pattern of intentional time together affects our relationship.
Itâs not about achieving any one grand, dramatic thing.
Itâs about doing small things, consistently.